It’s not easy to move after being cheated on; infidelity is scary and powerfully painful. It kills a part of you. No matter it was a mistake, flirtation, an emotional affair, or finding out your partner has a secret girlfriend and a family in another town.
It is normal and natural to feel a sense of betrayal and guilt-stricken when the reality of a stable relationship is tested.
Seven steps to help you to clear the air and move on after knowing the bitter truth of your relationship—with or without your partner.
- “Take the time that you need to get out of the shock through the shock while gathering information and facts. Time does not heal all wounds—however, it will give you some new light and perspective.” —Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT
Seek support from a loved one, a person you trust or a professional Infidelity is an isolating experience. It will help you to stay strong and benefit you emotionally. It is good to lean on the shoulder and cry your heart out. Share, share, and share; don’t stay heavy-hearted. The universe holds your back.
2.”Dealing with infidelity is an extremely difficult and isolated journey and can lead to more pain and depression in the future,” shares Thompson. Consider reaching out to a mental health professional and seeking help. Even during quarantine, virtual therapy sessions and text therapy allow us to get support and help without leaving home.
3. Talk to your partner if you need facts to move on. Communication and talking about the present is vital to healing after being cheated. If you want to continue with your partner, open up about your needs and feelings. Get through the details of what happened and what they are going through before you can move forward, either alone or together.
4. “Connect with a therapist to help you bring a new kind of dialogue—one that focuses on your feelings and lets you talk about yourself,” says relationship therapist Tammy Nelson, Ph.D. Look at the relationship with a microscopic view to see if something was wrong.
5. It is completely not your fault that your partner cheated on you. If your partner tries to play a blame game by saying that you “made” them look outside the relationship, that’s unfair.
6. Check the patterns of your relationship and the look that created a negative cycle between you and your partner. It is your choice to move forward after an honest conversation and the awareness created by your partner.
7. Do activities that reinforce the awesomeness of you.
Commit to start over and heal. Give yourself time to assess to make a choice. Once you have made a decision, make a fresh start with a bang.
Healing is getting in touch with yourself and coming anew. If you are feeling alone, give a chance to a new relationship. Begin your life again.
